A Letter to My Younger Self

Dear Young Tyreka, 

Wow! Can you believe that you are finally an adult? You have waited for this moment since you were 16 years old. I can tell you that you enjoy the freedom that adulthood brings but could pass on the paying bills part (ha ha). I know that you are excited and have many questions regarding what lies ahead but let’s slow down and focus on the life changing experiences.

You don’t realize it yet, but shortly after graduating high school, a very traumatic event will take place that changes you and how you view the world forever. There will be stints of extreme depression that many don’t see. As a result, you suffered from feelings of loneliness and guilt. You would grieve the young girl you once were as you knew you would never be that girl again. You develop a dangerous and unhealthy relationship with your strength. That unstable romance, prevents you from properly coping. Your family is everything to you and will remain that way. They held you up during a very troubling time. Your struggles were never expressed but their love and guidance led you out of darkness. The time spent with them and the many laughs, saved you and you will be forever grateful for them. Don’t worry, with time and extensive work on yourself, you make it through. 

College will be one of the best experiences that you’ll ever have. Lincoln University of Missouri is where you will learn the true meaning of friendship. You meet a group of young women who change your life forever. They may never understand how their undying support and kindness kept you encouraged during one of the most difficult times in your life. LU is also where you find your best friend and now husband. One of your psychology professors will become your mentor and help shape you into the professional you are today, Although, college provided some great times, there was no shortage of the bad. It was during this time that you go through tremendous financial struggles. There were many days that you didn’t know how you were going to make it, but with the assistance of family and friends, you graduate college strong. 

Most of the things that have taken place in your life, I wouldn’t change because those experiences helped shape and mold you into the woman you are today. However, hindsight is always 20/20 and there are some things that I wish you would have known that you know now. At times you can be stubborn so I hope that you will listen to the advice that is given. 

  • Cherish every moment that you have with your family and friends as you never know how long you have with them.
  • Express your feelings of love and gratitude.
  • Don’t sweat the small stuff because at the end of the day, it’s just small stuff. 
  • Live in the present.
  • Live on purpose and with purpose.
  • Be responsible with your money, save and invest.
  • Remember that you are more than enough and the negative thoughts or words of others will never change that. 
  • Hold your head high even when it seems too heavy to lift as your strength and determination will help pull you through. 
  • No matter how cold the world may seem, be kind and help those in need as that will one day become your purpose in life. 
  • Last but certainly not least, NEVER GIVE UP. Do not allow your past and what you have been through define who you will become.

Sincerely, 

Older and Wiser Tyreka 

14 Comments

  • Reply Bea November 14, 2019 at 12:25 pm

    Ah this got me all teary eye. Great blog post. ❤️

    • Reply Tyreka November 20, 2019 at 11:13 pm

      Thank you so much!!!!

  • Reply Princess November 14, 2019 at 3:35 pm

    Oh, if only we could actually go back in time and save ourselves. But, the past helps us become who we are now. Fir the better!

    • Reply Tyreka November 20, 2019 at 11:13 pm

      I agree!!!

  • Reply AprilNewlyMe November 14, 2019 at 4:06 pm

    I really enjoyed this what a great concept! Made me think lol we were all in such a hurry to be grown until your grown lol

    • Reply Tyreka November 20, 2019 at 11:12 pm

      Say that again lol. I was in a rush to become an adult.

  • Reply Dee November 14, 2019 at 6:47 pm

    Hey Tyreka, Thank you so much for sharing this thoughtful and very personable letter that you wrote to your younger self. I actually did this a while back as a journal prompt and it was probably one of the best things I have ever written. Mine was written more so as an apology letter. Personally, I believe a lot of times we beat ourselves up about our past. I’m sorry to hear that you had to endure some trying times however I am a firm believer in that these moments are what’s needed to mold us into the Queens that we later become.

    • Reply Tyreka November 20, 2019 at 11:11 pm

      Thank you for reading. It was difficult to write at first but as I wrote, it became what I needed to let go of the pain and guilt that I thought I was over.

  • Reply Stephanie Ferguson November 14, 2019 at 6:59 pm

    Great read! There is so much I wish I could tell my younger self. I went thru a lot for no reason. But I just take it as learning experiences now.

    • Reply Tyreka November 20, 2019 at 11:08 pm

      I completely understand. I agree that those past experiences become lessons and help mold us into who we are today.

  • Reply Kayla November 15, 2019 at 8:24 am

    This was so beautiful. Self reflection is key to growth and from the looks of it you my dear are flourishing.

    • Reply Tyreka November 20, 2019 at 11:05 pm

      Thank you so much. I am truly trying.

  • Reply htjouranals November 15, 2019 at 8:41 am

    I love how you opened this up with a picture of your younger self and you today. I had these images in my mind as I read through this blog. I think this is something many people should do. Self reflections are helpful in telling you how far you’ve come. My favorite part was, “Most of the things that have taken place in your life, I wouldn’t change because those experiences helped shape and mold you into the woman you are today.” a lot of times people get caught up sayin things like, “I wish this never happened to me” but they forget that what happened to them made them who they are. thank you for sharing your journey!

    • Reply Tyreka November 20, 2019 at 11:05 pm

      Thank you for your kind words. Self reflection has helped me on my journey of self-love.

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